The question arises- if one’s behavior is because of one’s स्वभाव, then should one attempt to control it?
So, this is an important verse-
* श्लोक ३४ *
इन्द्रियस्येन्द्रियस्यार्थे रागद्वेषौ व्यवस्थितौ ।
तयोर्न वशमागच्छेत्तौ ह्यस्य परिपन्थिनौ ॥ ३४॥
Here, राग-द्वेष is discussed-
राग ~ strong like,
द्वेष ~ strong dislike.
In this श्लोक, we see the word इन्द्रिय repeated for emphasis.
E.g. In the Indian culture to indicate that one would like a cup of very hot tea, one may ask for a cup of ‘hot, hot tea’.
So, repetition here is for emphasis.
इन्द्रियस्येन्द्रियस्यार्थे ~ in different sense objects related to the sense organs,
there is the potential for राग-द्वेष |
So, तयो: (in relation to these 2) i.e. राग & द्वेष,
वशमागच्छेत् ~ do not be under their control.
Both (राग & द्वेष) are like परिपन्थिनौ (enemies) i.e. they do not wish well for me, they are not helpful to me.
One’s unique personality is due to राग & द्वेष |
But one confuses love with obedience & control, e.g. if you love me you will sit down.
Or, I want my work-environment & colleagues to be a specific way.
However, when that strong like or dislike defines & controls me, and dictates how I am with others, then it becomes inimical to me.
All conflicts in one’s life are due to great रागद्वेष |
So, one should introspect- what are my राग-द्वेष ?
One observes रागद्वेष where there is the concept that things ‘should’ be done like this, beyond something being desirable, but rather dictating one’s mood.
If राग is fulfilled, one is in a great mood, but if it is not fulfilled, one says that I had a lousy day.
So, this has to do with one’s subconscious as what one likes or does not like, clashes with what the other person wants.
So, one should engage in a dialogue with the other and determine what is okay with the other, and how best I can contribute to the situation.
भगवान् श्री कृष्ण: does NOT say to do नाश(destroy) of one’s राग-द्वेष, as any skill/ability that one has, e.g. music, is because of one’s राग, and it has served one well.
So, what is being said is that one should not come under the control of रागद्वेष |
Instead one should align one’s रागद्वेष with धर्म i.e. what contributes to the well-being & welfare of the other, as well as to my well-being & welfare.
E.g. A woman misunderstood this verse and thought that it was her राग that she did not want to be mistreated by her abusive partner. This is not the meaning.
And one should do कर्म in the light of कर्म योग, so that one does not come under the spell of रागद्वेष |
The problem is not with राग-द्वेष, but the level of identification with one’s रागद्वेष – it is the compulsion to act upon the रागद्वेष, e.g. ‘can’t eat just one’ Lays chips. So, people sometimes use the strategy of not keeping the item of राग in stock at home e.g. cigarettes.
If one has a strong राग, one will have a corresponding द्वेष |
E.g. if I love kind & generous people, then I will avoid selfish & manipulative people.
All of us have the capacity to be either so we should not categorize others like this.
So, I can recognize रागद्वेष as part of the order that is भगवान्, and understand that due to the repetition of different thoughts I have likes & dislikes.
I cannot remove this रागद्वेष completely, but I can reduce these to preferences.
Desire is a privilege, so I should not allow desire to bother me. If it is fulfilled great, but if it is not fulfilled, then it should not be a problem.
Because anyway I do not define myself by the outcome of an event.
I am चैतन्य | In this व्यवहार role, I work on different things – some work out, some do not.
I do what I can with my रागद्वेष in line धर्म, offering it to भगवान् with कर्म योग बुद्धि:, so I do not come under the spell of रागद्वेष |
Otherwise, one thinks that I have conflict with people, but the conflict is due to the intensity of one’s रागद्वेष projecting how one wants people/situations to be. And if they do not align with my expectations, then all hell breaks loose.
So instead one should bring in the attitude of कर्म योग |