A dear listener has sent a very good question which has many layers and hence deserves a full episode.
The question – “Is existential loneliness solvable? What if you wake up one day and you do not have any connection left in this world. There is no one who knows “you” or shares a common reality with you. No person to love or care about, no person to help or support you if you get sick. There is no person to talk to about your day or share a meal with. There is no person to laugh or play with. This impacts you at a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. How do you deal with this at all these different levels? Do you resign yourself to thinking that this is your karma and you must endure it? If so, how? You could get a dog or a cat, attend classes to be with people and busy yourself but how do you address the physiological impacts and underlying grief you experience? How do you find peace and meaning when all the people who added meaning to your life are physically gone?
End of question.
What is very important to note is that,
The way we deal with a situation depends on our worldview.
Our worldview determines the way we see and engage with reality.
The question is – does our world view align with functional reality?
If our world view aligns with reality we will find meaning and purpose in life
If I were to unpack the question, there are two key points in this person’s worldview –
Kama – the pursuit of emotional comfort, support, and pleasure is the goal of life. Naturally, if loved ones are not there, there is no kama and hence no meaning in life. Dharma, Artha, and Moksha don’t hold much meaning or if they do their purpose is to serve the pursuit of Kama, loving relationships, and comfort.
The greatest connection that is possible and desirable is to our loved ones only. Either it is not possible to cultivate any other connection or the person does not want to have a connection with anything or anyone else in the world.